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#Fail - Oversimplification

Have you ever met someone that has heard of you before meeting you? This is happening to me more and more as my motivational speaking gains momentum, and I’ll never get over this strange phenomena. I’m always extra careful when meeting those people for the first time because I know I’m human, but sometimes they don’t! I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying that says something about how meeting people you admire could often lead to disappointment. I always tread lightly in these situations, and if I feel like I’ve been put on an unattainable pedestal, I’m quick to correct that misconception. It’s easy to make assumptions about those you don’t see on a regular basis. From a distance, everything looks much simpler than it is in reality, especially the lives of

The trouble is, we do this almost unintentionally, which makes it difficult to monitor. It takes “unlearning” behaviour, which is much more difficult than learning something brand new for the first time, especially for adults. good trick I’ve learned to help me through the nearly-constant-tedious-chore of attempting to unlearn this terrible habit is asking myself the following questions:

1. Is my life perfect? (No)
2. Why is that? (Because perfection doesn’t exist.)

3. Is their life perfect? (Yes it is, look how perfect it looks...) key word is “looks”: perfection Does. Not. Exist.

I hate over quoting, but I must share two old Latin sayings that loosely translate to the following: 1. “Perception is the master of deception.” & 2. Perspective is happiness.”

Parenting is hard, working full time is hard, being in school is hard, exercising regularity & trying To eat clean is nearly impossible... I fail often. In fact, most of the time I’m convinced I’m just temporarily succeeding before another inevitable failure. I am just stubborn, every fall (after whining about it sometimes) I get up. It’s hard. Life is hard, for most of us. But we so easily convince ourselves that it’s easier for other people. That they’re stronger than us somehow, but it’s not true. We are too hard on ourselves & We are all struggling with something, don’t oversimplify the lives of your neighbours. We could all use reminders, so maintain your motivation in the ways you know work. For me, it’s writing and running to clear the mind clutter. Cheers to progress being the new standard #ProgressNotPerfection You’re doing fine, just keep growing.
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